Dealing with Death

aniglobe.gifEveryone in the world, at one time or another, will experience the loss of someone we love. There is no way to avoid the pain completely, but we can find ways to cope, become stronger, and, eventually, to find peace.

This page is in memory of those who have passed over and for the people who have been left behind to carry on with life.


Dealing with grief is something none of us want to endure. Some people say dealing with grief is a waste of time. Not me! I say ..

"Grief is the proof we have loved and lived."

The tears will come, it is a natural reaction to an unpleasant situation. So just let them come. It is a good cleansing procedure, both mentally and physically.

Tears are nothing to be ashamed of ..
just remember ..

"Tears wash the heart and cleanse it of grief ..
allowing all the love you possess to shine forth!"
© 2002 Brenda "Rion" Sewell

Dealing with Death

Most of us at one time or another have experienced the loss of someone we love. There is no way to avoid the pain completely, but we can find ways to cope, to become stronger, and, eventually, to find peace.

Dealing with death is a process we all must endure at some time in our life. When we receive the notice of the death of a loved one, the words crush our hearts and take our breath away. One message cannot stand on its own as memories and thoughts rush through our minds in a flurry of emotion. If the person was extremely close to us, we may even feel anger at the person for leaving us alone to face the world.

In all walks of life, people have devised ways to help them cope with the inevitability and finality of death. In all lifestyles, talking is the best way to open your heart and allow the grief to subside. Talking releases the emotions; it clears space in your heart and mind for a touch of joy to enter your life.

If someone you know has suffered a loss, the best thing you can do for that person is to listen. Face the person, don’t look away, and give them your full attention. You did not cause the tears they shed; neither did you cause the pain they are feeling. The tears make the pain more visible to you, but you did not give them the pain.  It was already there.

When they cry, you may feel helpless and not know what to do. Just remember, you don't need to do a thing, just be there for them. Allow their tears to flow and it will help them to heal.

You need not speak, but do not turn away. Your silence as they cry is all they need. Be patient and do not fear. Listening with your heart to what they feel relieves their pain; for when the tears can freely come and go, their heart will become lighter in spirit.

I believe when we have learned all the lessons we were sent to Earth to learn, we are allowed to shed our physical body and return in spirit. Our body imprisons our soul the way a cocoon encloses the future butterfly. At the time of our physical death, we will be free of pain, free of fears and free of worries. We will be as a beautiful butterfly returning home to God.

The most important thing for you to remember is you are never alone. There are people who can help you cope with your grief as deal with it you must. For life goes on and you will continue to grow and to sing, to love and to dance, even after your loved one has parted. We cannot avoid the pain death brings into our life, but we can choose to not allow that pain to overwhelm us to the point of a lifeless non-existence.

© May 2001 Brenda “Rion” Sewell

We must play by the rules life has dealt us ...
no matter how it makes us feel,
for sometimes the things that we feel are the worst
are the stepping stones that help us to heal.

© 1999 Brenda "Rion" Sewell

Set Free

Will you walk beside me, hand in hand, and stand in the sun one last time?
Will you caress my cheek, as you were oft to do, and look into my eyes?
It is time for us to depart, to tarry no more, but please show me that you still care.

Hand in hand, we will slowly walk, under a night sky filled with stars.
Pull me back for one last look, one fleeting caress, one sweet kiss
before you leave me here, standing alone against the world.

Knowing full well our time here on earth is fleeting and short,
let me say I have loved with a passion, sweet and pure.
Give me that at least, before you tear my heart from my soul as you leave.

Let me dream awhile longer, before the harsh reality of life, takes over
and I must walk alone in a world that no longer holds your soul.
Take my hand, softly place a kiss in the palm to keep me forever safe from harm.

Fight hard my friend, try to stay here with me, for I love you greatly still;
but when your will falters, and the pain becomes too great,
I will release you from a long ago promise to never leave
and will bid you a fond, but tearful farewell.

© November 1998 Brenda “Rion” Sewell

Lost .. a Friend

The phone rings in the middle of the night
and a voice on the other end
explains how, in the dead of the night.
you have lost another friend.

Stunned you sit as anguish fills your heart
and the tears begin to fall.
You sit in the dark with the phone in your hand
for you can't understand it all.

Vibrant and caring, and so full of love
an effervescent life is gone.
The body still lingers on this great earth
while the spirit flew into the dawn.

It is never easy when a friend passes over
and leaves us here alone on the shore,
but we can take heart when we realize
peace is theirs forever more.

© April 2002 Brenda “Rion” Sewell

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